While my parents were argumentative, I never saw either parent ever lay a hand each other. And the same is true of Jim and me – we certainly argue (especially when we were younger) but we don’t beat one another.
People need to expect to be in relationships that include mutual respect. If it includes beating, the person needs to leave.
Now, I certainly understand why women, in particular might stay – status, financial issues, if there are kids involved…but that goes back to needing to have a positive self-image, which, sadly, many women don’t have. And I’m sorry if this comes off as being too judgmental about women like Janay [Ray Lewis’s fiance now wife]…but I’d rather work in WalMART (and I despise WalMART) than be in a relationship where a man treated me badly.
But, the fact is, women are trained, particularly by many religious, to be subservient to men. That leaves men thinking that they have the right to abuse women, that they have ownership.
So how to we raise our children to know:
- You don’t beat people
- You don’t let yourself be beaten
- You don’t stay in a relationship where you are beaten